IN WHICH I WRITE A MEMOIR

 

Loki + me

circa 2017

In the course of my life the relationships I've had with men have been tumultuous. I haven't made the best decisions when it came to the men I spent time with or that I allowed to have far more control than they should have in my life. 

I had started writing out these stories as a way to look at my decisions and figure out why I kept falling into this sort of unhealthy trap. I shared a few of these stories, and everyone said, "you should publish this." And so over the past few years, I've been working on these stories; eventually, they'll be published. 

The reason it's taken me years to work on these is that in many of the "chapters" it takes me to a place where I was in unhealthy, often violent, relationships. Although I am in a really good place now, remembering these past incidents does still hurt. I work on it when I am in a good headspace, and I set it aside when I am not. 

That's not to say that every chapter is bad!

I am including non-romantic relationships as well, so the chapters where I talk about my Papaw or my Uncle Ronnie are absolutely delightful. But for the most part the chapters are a little dark. It definitely will not a light read, but it will offer a glimpse inside of someone else's mind and life. That's one of the reasons I love reading memoirs. I think they make us feel less alone, and they give us some kind of understanding about others and the decisions they face. 

It's easy to sit back and judge me for my choices without understanding the situations I was in. We never know another until we walk a mile in their shoes, right? Memoirs afford us that opportunity. 

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IN WHICH I TALK ABOUT HALLOWEEN MEMORIES

 

me + Jakob 2000

I have always loved Halloween, and when I had a baby I was very excited about sharing that fun holiday with him. Obviously, I dressed him as a pumpkin for his first Halloween because that's a rite of passage for all babies I think.

Then he was (in no particular order): a dinosaur, a giraffe, Captain Jack Sparrow, a military guy, Jason from Friday the 13th, a zombie, Edward Cullen, and I can't even remember everything else. 

Of course, when he was little we would go with cousins to trick or treat. It was always a ton of fun. We would also go to all the haunted trails that central gulf coast Florida had to offer. Although J was just a little one, he really loved them. I think mostly seeing me super scared was what he was laughing at! 

When we moved to Oklahoma we would have Halloween parties for the kids at our house. We did different themes, like Haunted Circus or Scary Movies. I would make tons of food that was themed, play games, and just in general let the kids have fun. 

There was never a year we didn't carve pumpkins and try out some special carving. Occasionally they worked, but often they did not. But we had so much fun doing it. 

The haunted house tradition continued in Oklahoma as well. J and I went through them all. Sometimes we would be so freaked out by the time we reached the front of the line we'd have to talk ourselves into it. Once we got inside, J would be absolutely fine, but me? No way. I get scared sitting here typing about it. But I kept going because he loved it. 

I still love Halloween. 

It's a little bittersweet at times when I think about the memories, but last year my mom came out and we had a pumpkin carving contest with my nieces at the judges (I won.), went to a haunted cornfield with three haunted houses in it, and just in general ate a lot of candy and had fun watching scary movies. 

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IN WHICH WE TALK ABOUT HALLOWEEN MOVIES

 

Anyone who knows me knows that I love Halloween. I love haunted houses, despite the fact that I get so scared I almost cry. I love pumpkin patches and apple picking. All the fall smells and sights just make my very soul filled with utter joy. 

I also love Halloween movies. 

BUT I am not the biggest horror movie gal. Honestly, if it's gory or a lot of psychological terror then I'm out. 

But give me a Disney Halloween movie any day of the week. I watch some of these every single year! Here's my list of MUST watch Halloween movies! 

• Hocus Pocus
• Halloweentown
• The Corpse Bride
• Frankenweenie
• Casper
• Sleepy Hollow 
• Coraline
• Beetlejuice
• The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown
• Practical Magic
• The Haunted Mansion
• Goosebumps
• Coco
• Ghostbusters
• Scooby Doo
• Hubie Halloween

Do you like gory or are you like me: scary lite?

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